Red Flag 6 - Nothing is Ever His Fault
Anytime something goes wrong or happens, he blames someone or something or his past or his hard life growing up, etc... as time goes by, the target of his blame increasingly becomes you.
Because abusers always want to present a good image, they often make promises that can't or have no intention of keeping. When the time comes near or past and they did not deliver, they always have a steady stream of excuses for disappointing their partner or children...
I know this one father, he would make promises to his kids that they will do this or do that... but never follow through. It was always tomorrow. One time his wife ask him why he always say tomorrow and not that day... he said that because if he says tomorrow, then he isn't lying... tomorrow is the next day. He had no intention of keeping the promises.
When his kids grew older and they planned on going to conventions or major events, he would say that they could go... because he had a reputation of world's greatest dad to maintain... but as the time near, he starts to find fault in everything they did... often provoking them. If they try to remain calm, he would find more and more things to edge them on... until they break. The moment they break and get angry or upset... he crushes down on them and as punishment, they are no longer allowed to attend the event. It repeatedly happen over and over with not just one kid, but many of them.
Some behave irresponsibly... and perhaps taking serious economic advantage of the partner in the process.
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